Last night I was one of eight coaches who gathered to support a local community. We started our meeting with introductions. I shared my coaching experience, and my work as a professional speaker. "I'm also the Community Manager for Poise," I said, explaining a bit about light bladder leakage and the difference our Poise community makes for the 1 in 3 of us who experience LBL.
Have you ever noticed that when you're comfortable talking about LBL, it makes those around you more comfortable as well? No one raised an eyebrow… not even the retired policeman in our group. What happened next was a happy surprise. A lovely woman about my age, with big blue eyes and the perfect shade of blond hair, introduced herself. She didn't start with her credentials. She started by saying, "I'm not married, and I guess I forgot to have kids! I'm a customer of your Poise pads. At this point in my life, I need them. It is what it is. And I'm glad I have a way to make things easier." She shared so freely and with such ease.
As I looked around the table, several women were nodding their heads. Her disclosure didn't ruffle anyone’s feathers, or alienate her in any way. As a matter of fact, people felt closer to her and freer to be themselves. I loved her phrase – "It is what it is." I wish I could bottle her confidence and make it available to every woman who has ever felt alone, embarrassed or afraid of being judged. Every time I interview a gynecologist, urologist, or pelvic floor specialist, I always asks them, "What do you want women to know?" In one way or another, they all say, "Please don't be embarrassed to ask questions about LBL and tell me what's going on. It's the only way I can help."
Imagine what might happen if a trusted friend were to tell you that she experiences an occasional leak. My guess is it would open up an opportunity for some really great sharing, caring, and camaraderie. Why not be the first to broach the subject? You can warm up by sharing your comments on this blog.